Today is our first meeting with our adoption case worker for our home study interviews. This marks the beginning of another chapter in our adoption journey. Up to this point, I really haven’t posted much about it, because it wasn’t common knowledge in our families. But as we’ve been sharing the news about this new journey with family and friends, there have been many questions.
Over the next few weeks, I’d like to talk about some of the questions, reactions, and concerns we’ve heard as we shared our news with those around us. Maybe you have had the same questions in your mind, or maybe you are just a curious onlooker. Either way, I hope that what I share impacts your life in some way.
The first question I want to discuss is “Why are you adopting?” Sometimes this question comes as an assumption instead, “Oh, so you can’t have kids of your own?” Before I answer the question, I want to address the assumption.
We do not know that we cannot have children. If God wills it, we would love to have a blended family with both biological children and adopted children. We feel that adoption is a much needed ministry, and want to do our part.
The answer to the question itself has several parts.
1. God cares about the fatherless and tells us to care for them.
Ye shall not afflict any widow, or fatherless child.
Defend the poor and fatherless: do justice to the afflicted and needy.
Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.
The world is full of fatherless children. Children that have been neglected, abandoned, and hurt. Children who need an example of God’s love in their lives. If we as Christians don’t reach out to them, who will? Jason and I fill that God’s will for our lives includes reaching out to those fatherless ones and giving them a home and a forever family.
2. This has been a desire that God put in both of our hearts from a young age.
When Jason was eight years old, his father died of leukemia. During the hard, dark, years that followed as his family struggled with their loss, several people from his church reached out to him and took him under their wing. In Jason’s words, “I have always wanted to adopt so that I can reach out to someone else in the same way those people reached out to me. I want to pass on the blessings I have been given.”
Ever since I was 9 or 10 years old, and experienced several things that caused deep emotional pain, I have dreamed of running an orphanage. I wanted to love those kids who have never known love. I wanted to teach them how love can make a difference in their lives, and I wanted to help them work through the hurt and pain that they have suffered.
3. I have seen the change that adoption can bring in a life.
I have two adopted siblings, and although their lives with our family have not been always easy, their lives are remarkably different than what they would have been if they had never been adopted.
Adoption gives hurting, needy children a chance to succeed. It breaks the bondages of abandonment and neglect.
So, that is why we are adopting. I realize that God does not call everyone to adopt, but he does tell all of His children to care for the fatherless. Are you fulfilling that command? Are you reaching out to the needy children all around you who are yearning for love?